This month is National Drunk and Drugged Driving Prevention month and today being Christmas Eve, please don’t drink and drive! It’s not that hard to call a cab, have a designated driver or to plan on staying overnight at your party. New Mexico has a huge problem with drinking and driving.
According to University of New Mexico Division of Government Research, in 2007:
42% of all fatal crashes involved alcohol.
5% of all crashes involved alcohol.
A person died in an alcohol-involved crash every 50 hours.
A person was injured in an alcohol-involved crash every 5 hours.
An alcohol-involved crash occurred every 3 1/2 hours.
It’s not worth this. Get a DD, drink at home or get a ride
We see on the news all the time people who have 5, 6, 7 arrests for drinking and driving. It makes no sense and I don’t understand these repeat offenders, but drinking and driving kills. Please don’t be stupid/selfish and try to drive, there are more important things than you getting home when you’re drunk.
Here’s a bunch of resources to get free rides home. There is no excuse!
Enmu Safe Ride
Phone: 575-607-9995 or 575-607-5999
Details: Free to Eastern New Mexico University students only;
CADDy (Chauffeur and Designated Driver) Program (Santa Fe) The CADDy program provides a safe ride home via Capital City Cab to adults from a liquor establishment or residence/party where alcohol is served. Santa Fe County subsidizes cab fare up to $25. Cab riders pay $1 and the difference of the fare over the $25 limit. The service is offered on Friday and Saturday nights from 5:30 p.m. to 2:30 a.m. Call 438-0000 for a $1 cab ride home.
These guys will even drive your car home for you for a tip (ABQ, Bernallio, Bosque Farms, Corrales, Rio Rancho, Isleta and Los Lunas) http://designateddriversondemand.com/about-us.html
There are also tons of resources out there for Designated drivers and a lot of states offer rewards to designated drivers. A lot of bars will also give you free sodas and non-alcoholic drinks if you are a DD.
Posted in Current Events
Tagged accident, cab, crash, designated driver, drive safe, driving, drunk, drunk driving, free ride, Holidays, new mexico, safe, safety, Society, Tales from the Backwoods, wreck
I am disappointed by the ads I’ve seen for stores opening as early as 8pm Thanksgiving evening to start Black Friday. One person they interviewed on the News said he saved $2000 last year by camping out in front of Best Buy for a week. How much money do you think he had to spend to save that $2000? He mentioned they were presents for his kids, if that’s true, I think that’s a bit overkill. I can’t imagine spending more than a couple hundred dollars per child, besides I think the kids would rather spend a week with their father than have a toy. We spend so little time with our families as it is, this is the one day we can pull it together and sit down for a family meal and these companies want us to rush through dinner to start shopping a day early? Do you really need another TV to ignore each other with? Can you actually afford any of that crap? I say no. We won’t even be participating in Black Friday this year. We will be spending our limited funds on Small Business Saturday. Our small businesses need our help and your money will stay in your community and improve your local economy. I’m glad a few companies are foregoing opening early so that their employees can enjoy the holiday. So put on your stretchy pants, sit back and enjoy your family.
Don’t forget to come back tomorrow for my Holiday Giveaway!
Posted in Holidays
Tagged black friday, Daily life, dinner, food, Fun, giveaway, Holidays, Opinion, personal, Rants, sales, small business saturday, Society, Thanksgiving
As a Sweepstaker and a blogger, I feel like a have a unique perspective on the giveaways that are put on by blogs. I am finding myself more and more frustrated by the entire system. At current, blogs get prizes by getting sponsors that make certain demands on how people can enter. The companies will ask for things like likes on Facebook, subscribers, etc. This has made me reluctant to start doing giveaways that way. There has got to be a way to make money and do giveaways without whoring out your blog to advertisers. Here’s some of the things that especially tick me off:
1. Don’t have so many ads that your blog takes forever to load.
2. Make sure that the links you are requiring me to click actually work. It really pisses me off to find an entry I’ve been working on is getting thrown out because you screwed up. I’ll usually be halfway through an entry before I see this and blogs usually take several minutes to deal with.
3. Seriously, just use Raffle-copter, giveaway tools, etc. I’m not reading through your pages of directions. Use a giveaway form and only a giveaway form. If you put additional required stuff anywhere other than the form, no one will see it. I am also not going to scroll back and forth between your directions and the hundreds of comments to make a separate comment for each entry. Leave a comment forced entries are annoying, but at least let me leave a comment on the form, not in the comments and then you have to try and match it up.
4. If you can’t get sponsored without doing 500 Facebook likes, don’t participate. It just makes your blog look bad. Don’t make me like 40 Facebook pages or twitter pages. I max-out several times a year and I’m just going to wipe all of you when I do again. Everyone loses.
5. I refuse to sign up for eBates or any other program, subscription or site. Yes, I sign up for about 700 new sweepstakes a day, but I don’t like things I need to uninstall, delete or un-register for. Along those lines, don’t make me follow your blog with a particular service. I’m not going to sign up for a blog reader service just for your blog, let me use the service I already have.
6. Actually contact the winners. A lot of blogs just post up who won on the blog itself. I don’t have time to read 500+ blogs a day, so just email me if I win something.
I wonder how many times the prize is ‘forfeited’ and the blogger keeps the prize. Or how many times they fail to get the required entry because they’re doing the crap listed above. I am suspicious and frustrated and considering not bothering with blog contests anymore. They have seemingly good odds, but they so many issues, I’m not sure they’re worth my time.
Soon, very soon, we’re going to look into starting to do giveaways, but they’ll be on my terms. I won’t play the sponsor game and lose what’s valuable about my blog.
Posted in Rants, Reviews, Sweepstakes, Tales from the Backwoods
Tagged blog, blog contest, contest, Daily life, giveaway, Opinion, personal, Random Thoughts, Rants, Relationships, Society, sweeps, sweepstake, Tales from the Backwoods, win, winner
After this election I am disappointed in the US public. (I promise I’ll quit talking about the election tomorrow) In reading Facebook and talking with people about their vote and why they are voting the way they are, I’ve discovered that people are a lot dumber than I had thought. I cannot believe the ignorance and misinformation that people just accept as fact. The Sweetness and I call these people Sheeple. Sucking the big media teat and gulping it down. So, here is how not to look like a complete idiot:
1. Keep you mouth shut. Nothing makes you look smarter than only speaking when you have a valid and good point. Speaking too much usually exposes your lack of research.
2. Get your ass off the couch and read. Do your own research. Go beyond the major US media outlets. Read several different versions of the same story from different sources. You’ll get a more complete picture that way. Every news outlet has ulterior motives, be it a sponsor, owner or a viewership that effect how they spin stories. Look at foriegn news sources also. Read between the lines and put the picture together.
3. Have your own opinion and defend it. Do not repeat someone else’s politics. It’s obvious when you’re regurgitating some report you saw on the news last night or a conversation you had. For the youngsters out there: Don’t just accept your parents’ political views. Think for yourself. Do research and find out what you believe in. Stick with your position and defend it. If you waver, you’ll look weak minded and it’s obvious you don’t really know what you’re talking about. Defend your opinion with facts and ‘I statements’, ie: I think, not personal attacks or insults.
4. Remember your facts and sources. Once you’ve done your research, remember where your information came from. When someone questions your stance, refer them to your source. Sourceless information is useless information. It could have come from the crazy guy that lives behind the dumpster if you don’t give a source.
5. This is all important! Practice some cynicism. Question every piece of information you are given. Consider the source, is it reliable, accurate, accepted? Analyze what a statistic is really telling you. Does it make mathematical sense? Has the data been manipulated? A lot of statistics are total BS. They tell you what the numbers mean, but a lot of times, if you actually look at the study, you’ll be able to see through what they’ve tried to present. Look at the sample size, if it’s tiny, the whole thing is nonsense. Look at the source, was this a legitimate study or just a internet poll? On and on, but do your own fact checking.
Also, calm the F down! I am tired of frantic “I’m leaving the Country if _____ wins!” No, you aren’t. Don’t be a poor sport, you lost. Get over it. The votes are in and we’ve got to live with the decision our Sheeple have made for us. Unfortunately, the Sheeple outnumber those of us with brains and until we change the media and the mindless consumption of it, it will always be this way. At least this campaign is over and I can turn on the TV again without being molested by attack ads.
And a last note, politics is generally not a good dinner, work or mixed company topic. This has always been an etiquette guideline and I wish it’d stay that way.
Posted in Current Events, Rants
Tagged current events, debate, debating, election, ignorant, news, Opinion, politics, president, Rants, Relationships, research, Society, stupid, television, vote, voting
Today is Give Up Your Shoulds Day. I think this is a great idea. We all have these ideas in our heads about what other people expect of us and in general, these are good things, like you should wear a bra in public, you should brush your teeth, you should finish school and you should be respectful. However, a lot of us carry around shoulds that are complete BS.
I’ve actually been working on this a lot with my anxiety problems and it’s very helpful to let go of some misconceived things that you feel you are expected to do that no one truly expects. Here’s a few of my should’s that I have or am giving up:
I should clean every week. I should cook dinner every night from scratch. I should say yes to every request that’s made to me. I should put my loved ones’ needs above my own. I should be nice to everyone all the time. I should keep my feelings to myself. I should be more feminine or sexier. I should be a size _. I should have a baby by 30. I should always answer the phone.
I have adopted a ‘good enough’ policy. I keep the house and myself presentable, but not spotless. I make dinners from scratch when I want to cook. When I don’t feel like it, we whip up something from a box or the freezer or whatever. It’s good enough. I spent way too long sacrificing my own comfort for others, sometimes you need to say no. If you’re too tired, too busy or really just not interested, say no. I accept that I’m not the girliest or sexiest woman out there and that’s ok. I’m cute and that’s good enough. I’m tough and smart and that’s good enough. I’m a size 8 and that’s good enough. I’m thinking I’ll roll the dice and have a baby when I’m ready, not when news articles tell me my deadline is. Leave me a message, I’m being good enough.
Basically, I’m saying live by your own rules. Don’t make yourself crazy trying to meet some Stepford standard. Do things that make you happy just because they make you happy. Let yourself be who you are and don’t apologize for it.
By the way, today is also National Men Make Dinner Day. He may only be able to make mac n’ cheese, but if you don’t have to make it, isn’t it good enough?
Posted in A Mind on Fire
Tagged Community, Daily life, family, happiness, health, Home, Lifestyle, mental-health, Miscellaneous, Musings, Opinion, personal, pressure, psychology, Random Thoughts, Rants, Relationships, Society, Tales from the Backwoods, women, Work
In messing with my new Kindle Fire and downloading a ton of stuff, apps included, I found a cool one that registers your complaints to companies. I love this idea because I often leave places saying, “I’m going to write them a strongly worded letter, I say!” But I cool off and forget by the time we get home. The app I found is called ComplainApp and I got it from Amazon.com on their special section for Kindle apps, but it also downloaded and works well on my Android phone. I haven’t been tempted to use it yet for anything new, so I filed a running complaint I’ve had about the Shell station in town. The staff is horrible and hardly speak English. I always leave there in a rage and have stopped using Shell altogether because of it. The app connects with your Twitter and Facebook accounts, also LinkedIn if you have it (I don’t) and finds the appropriate company and registers your complaint on their Twitter feed or Facebook wall. It then tracks your complaint until it is resolved, you escalate the complaint (by resending or sending new complaints) or close the complaint. I think this is great. You can actually get your problem across without chewing out some low-man on the totem pole that doesn’t deserve it and can’t do anything about it (and coming off like a total b*tch in the process). Plus, you might get some coupons or comped stuff out of the whole thing. I’ve only registered the one complaint, but I can tell this will be used often with me. I am pretty sure it was free, so maybe give it a try. I haven’t been compensated or contacted by this company for my review, I just think it’s cool and am passing it on to you, dear reader.
Posted in Reviews
Tagged adroid, amazon, amazon.com, app, bitch, blogging, complain, complainapp, coupon, Daily life, facebook, kindle, Lifestyle, management, moan, Opinion, personal, rant, Rants, resolve, review, shell station, Society, tablet, Tales from the Backwoods, Technology, travel, twitter
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I just finished reading the third book of the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy and I have to say it’s not a very romantic story. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoyed reading it. But, I hope no women out there hold this as a goal for a relationship. Everything about Christian Grey screams abusive to me. I guess this is just coming from a place of being abused in a similar fashion (not the sexual stuff in the book!). You don’t need bruises for it to be abuse. (Also, as an aside; there is nothing inherently wrong or bad about the Domination/Submissive relationship, just be happy and love each other. I don’t care how you do it.) Men that charm you and then systematically take away your independence are not to be trusted. Especially when they display the obsessive controlling behavior in the book. I don’t want to spoil the book if anyone hasn’t read it yet, but PLEASE do not think this is a healthy way to live. I spent all three books waiting for him to go off the deep end and hurt/kill her. I know how this story ends in real life and it’s not a fairytale.
I got this list from http://www.womenshealth.gov/violence-against-women/am-i-being-abused/ If you think you are being abused, get help!
Below is a list of possible signs of abuse. Some of these are illegal. All of them are wrong. You may be abused if your partner:
- Monitors what you’re doing all the time
- Unfairly accuses you of being unfaithful all the time
- Prevents or discourages you from seeing friends or family
- Prevents or discourages you from going to work or school
- Gets very angry during and after drinking alcohol or using drugs
- Controls how you spend your money
- Controls your use of needed medicines
- Decides things for you that you should be allowed to decide (like what to wear or eat)
- Humiliates you in front of others
- Destroys your property or things that you care about
- Threatens to hurt you, the children, or pets
- Hurts you (by hitting, beating, pushing, shoving, punching, slapping, kicking, or biting)
- Uses (or threatens to use) a weapon against you
- Forces you to have sex against your will
- Controls your birth control or insists that you get pregnant
- Blames you for his or her violent outbursts
- Threatens to harm himself or herself when upset with you
- Says things like, “If I can’t have you then no one can.”
Taxes aren’t due until the 17th this year, but from working several years in a CPA’s office, the 15th is still D-day to me. This year, I just had my own and The Sweetness’ taxes to do. Mine was a challenge as always, since I have to file a small business return. Thankfully, I’ll be able to rejoin the W-2 club this year and file a simple return. I ended up with a $3k tax bill this year but at least it’s over with for another year.